5 Sex Positions If You Can’t Orgasm

When it comes to orgasms, some women find them easy to come by and, for others, they are just something that happens to other women. But we think sex can be totally hot and pleasurable without both parties experiencing an orgasm.  

Most women don’t orgasm through penetrative sex alone – preferring oral sex, fingering and anything involving the clitoris to get there. So, in the hunt for the Big O, it can be a good idea to enlist the help of vibratorspleasure gels and sex toys

Experimenting to find the most enjoyable sex positions to help you cum is something to give a go, too. If you’re finding it difficult to cum during sex, these five positions can increase your chances – remember, the journey is more important than the destination, so enjoy it! 

REVAMPED MISSIONARY

If you don’t usually orgasm from penetration alone, this one might just be for you. Begin in the missionary sex position, on your back with your partner on top of you. Have him pull his body up towards your head so that his pelvis is slightly higher than yours. Instead of thrusting in and out, he can move in more of a gentle grinding action against your pelvis to start off with. This can help stimulate your clit – the direct stimulation that some women need to reach orgasm.  

To turn things up a notch, place your legs on his shoulders for a new angle and deeper penetration. 

THE KITCHEN TABLE ROMP

Sometimes simply taking sex out of the bedroom can help increase excitement and make it more likely for the woman to orgasm, so for this position make your way to the kitchen. You will need a table that isn’t too high so that the man’s waist is at table-top height. The woman lies down flat on the table edge whilst her partner enters her, holding on to either her hips or waist depending on how tall he is. As he is standing, the man’s hands are free to roam her body meaning that he can stimulate her clitoris at the same time and he could also massage in some  lubricant to help her to climax sooner.

DOWNWARD DOG

Start on your hands and knees as your partner kneels behind you, holding onto your hips as he thrusts in and out. To change the angle of penetration, get down on your elbows as the intensity of this position could allow for stimulation of the mythical G-spot. Another option is to lower your chest to the bed as you leave your hips high in the air and your partner crouches low.  

Try using one hand to rub your clit or your partner can reach his hand around and give it a go. 

THE BRIDGE

This is another favored sex position that could help her cum. Begin by lying on your back as your partner kneels in front of you. Whilst on your back, bend your knees and place your feet flat on the bed, then arch your hips up towards the ceiling so you’re in a low bridge. Your partner can then hold your hips and use them as leverage as he thrusts.  

Experiment with changing the angle of his hips to be lower or higher and with lowering or raising your hips, to increase the intensity.  

REVERSE COWGIRL

To start with, ask your partner to lie down on the bed on his back, as you straddle him backwards so that you’re facing his feet. As you move up and down in a rhythmic pace, lean forward for a different angle, depth of penetration and sensation. If you want a bit of a twist, you can lean backwards using your hands to balance.  

Your partner can run his fingers down your back or reach around and caress your breasts and clit as he moves in and out of you. For easier access he can prop his back up on a few pillows.  

SIDEWAYS SPOON

As well as being cute and intimate, as he’s giving you a cuddle from behind, this is one of the easiest positions for dual stimulation. Lie on your sides with your partner behind you so that you’re both facing the same direction, as you push your bum towards him.  

As he enters you, put your hand on his and show him how you want your clit to be touched. While he moves back and forth, you can also match his rhythm by rocking your hips back and forth. For exciting vibrations, ask him to gently press a vibrator to your favourite spots as he reaches around to touch you.  

For more advice on the best sex positions to help you cum, visit the rest of our Explore Sex blog.  

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