FIRST TIME SEX POSITIONS
So it’s your first time? Emotions will be running high, sexual chemistry and tension will be fully charged and the perfectly natural what-if-I-get-it-wrong self-doubts will be flooding to the front of your mind.
Yes, first-time sex really is a big deal, mentally and physically; but it doesn’t need to live up to the ‘quick and awkward’ or even ‘painful’ rep it’s been given over time. Learn how to ace beginner sex with our top 5 sex positions to help first-time sex go a whole lot sexier.
Although admittedly sometimes seen as the tamest of them all, the missionary position has huge appeal for many couples and is most definitely a great place to start. With the woman lying on her back and the man on top, resting his weight on his elbows, it is generally the easiest position for first-timers as entry is the most natural this way.
With you both being face to face, you can feel completely connected and intimate, with lots of eye contact and opportunities for kissing. Lubrication can also be used to help penetration, therefore you might like to try some extra lube for your first few times in The Missionary.
Girl on Top
For many women, this is a great first-time position as it allows her to stay in control of the speed and depth of penetration – meaning she can find out what suits her, at her own pace. It’s also thought to be the position most likely for her to achieve the ‘Big O’ as she is taking care of it herself. Plus, it’s always a winner for the guys too – they get to lie back and enjoy the view!
This position also allows both of you to explore her body further. With her rocking back and forth, this is a great opportunity for him to caress her breasts for additional stimulation. If she’s feeling confident enough, this position also allows her to rub her clitoris to encourage an orgasm, whilst also turning him on at the same time whilst he watches. It’s a win-win!
On the Edge
This is another straightforward move physically, and not a million miles away from the missionary. The woman rests on her back at the edge of the bed with her legs hanging off, while the man steps back from the bed and places his body between her legs. The woman’s pelvis is raised much higher with this move than in the missionary position and penetration could feel a lot deeper. It can be a very relaxing position for women because they can lie back while their partner does most of the work. (Sorry boys).
This position is great for those men who like to dominate as it allows the man to have more control and take deeper and longer movements which allows him to understand what she is and isn’t enjoying. However, another bonus to this standing position is that she can reach her hand around to stimulate the clitoris. Whether that be with her fingers or introducing vibrators, this position is bound to have you both going wild.
In this position, the woman lies on her stomach with one or two pillows under her pelvis while her partner lies on top of her, mimicking her position and entering from behind. This position is much slower and rhythmic, with circular motions rather than the usual faster, thrusting movements.
It is good for beginners as it allows you to experience the sensation of sex without deep cervical stimulation. If it’s the man’s first time, chances are that he’s likely to come quickly. This position is a great way to delay his climax due to the slow, short thrusts and motions. This is also a great position to allow him to explore other parts of your body such as kissing your back and the base of your neck.
This is a great first-time sex position, especially for those who are especially shy or nervous. The woman should lay on her side and her partner lie behind her, entering her from behind. It can also be an extremely intimate and romantic position, with your partner holding you the whole time, and allows for a lot of interaction and touching of the important female erogenous zones.
First-time sex is a hugely psychological experience and feeling relaxed and connected helps remove many of the anxieties which can undermine sexual arousal. Whichever position you go with, remember no one is born a sex god – it’s only by trying different positions that you will find out what works for you and your partner.
The most important thing is to enjoy it and feel relaxed throughout. It’s also important to remember to stay safe when wrapped up at the moment and ensure you take the correct preventative measures such as a condom.